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Showing posts with label wives and husbands. Show all posts
Showing posts with label wives and husbands. Show all posts
Saturday, February 4, 2017
A Valentine Story
He made her a fresh pot of coffee. He headed out the door at seven a.m. most every day to buy her favorite jelly doughnut. He took her for car rides to a favorite spot; a small creek that ran under a stone bridge where they would sit like young lovers as if parking all over again.
He watched the same movies over and over because she didn't remember that they just saw them. He listened to her countless stories--ones that he'd heard hundreds of times through the years. And he looked at her with true love--the kind of expression I've never seen since on any man's face.
Yes, my father's love for Mom was noteworthy. So much, that it will stand the test of time. He's no longer here, but his love lives on in photos, cards and hastily written romantic letters which spill out of an old basket in my mother's kitchen.
The photos are worn, but the sentiment is there: true love, undying love, faithful love. My father took his marriage vows seriously with love and honor. Sticking by in sickness and bad times.
I could see it wasn't easy in his final days at the hospital last fall. At first, Dad hadn't wanted us to bring Mom around--once again fearing for her and trying to protect her with his literal last breaths. But we knew where she belonged--right at his side. And so we trekked daily to the hospital, placing her in a wheelchair and wheeling her to be with the man she adored. He smiled when he was able, held her hand at other times. The kiss I saw my mother give Dad before they wheeled him into surgery was long and lingering. No young passionate lovers have ever seemed as enamored of one another as my parents did even into their eighties.
Someday I hope to write a book centered around the words my father used to pen his beautiful notes to Mom. For she blushes and acts like a schoolgirl while reading them to us. And we listen, me, my brother and son, as she shares the words that will live on long after they are both gone.
That, my friends, is a true Valentine story.
Thursday, December 24, 2015
Peace above all else
A woman walks through her door and sighs. She smiles, a tired, careworn look upon her face. Her work day was eight hours long, but felt much longer. For the burdens she shoulders add to the moments, almost like lead weights. She is the caregiver. The wife, and mother. She is the daughter of parents now old, and she has become the parent. When her mother asks a childlike question and she's taken the time to give her kindest answer, in that moment, she knows the roles have reversed.
She holds memories in her heart. Some moments of laughter from a close family, holiday memories, times that were lighter and carefree. She remembers that she, too, was once a little girl, the whole world before her, innocent and unknowing.
Past mistakes tickle at the corners of her mind, but she pushes them away. For they do no good at this moment. They only remind her what was, and torture her with what should have been. She's learned much from them though, and vows never to repeat them.
She thinks about him. Their marriage built on rocky ground, yet the solid moments they share. He's not perfect, she thinks, but then again, neither am I. But can she truly change? If she stood up for what she believes, if she voices her true opinion, if she stops pretending. . . Perhaps then, she will have peace, for that is what she longs for at this time in her life.
She is a praying woman. She's fallen asleep at night, hot tears streaming down her cheeks. Are her children safe? Will her parents live to see another holiday? Is there enough money to pay the bills? Am I losing myself? God, I trust in you. I need to sleep tonight. Take these cares from me. Hold your precious little girl in your arms, please.
In the quiet of her soul she gives herself completely. For God has carried her through before. Whether the future holds change, uncertainty, loss or gain, she has known true, complete trust. And when she awakes the next morning to the challenges of a new day, hand in hand with the knowledge of her Father's unfailing love, she rises to the tasks before her, and vows with all that is within her that it will be a day of true peace.
Saturday, September 20, 2014
Prayer for Al-Anon
A woman makes a decision. Hands clasped before her, eyes closed, she whispers into the stillness of the night.
Does my husband know what it feels like watching him self-destruct, worshipping the glass god, a bottle?
Does he know what it feels like to have a sinking pit in my stomach, wondering, will this day be different? Is this the day he’ll stop drinking?
Does he know what it feels like worrying about our friends, wondering what they think of him? How he spoke with me that day in front of them? Are they talking behind our backs? Has he said something offensive or hurt them in any way? To know what it feels like making excuses for him?
Does he know what it feels like wondering what I’m doing wrong? Was it something I said that pushed him that day? To hear words pour forth from him like poison, knowing it isn’t really him talking, but the demons in his tortured soul.
Does he know what it feels like to hope this might be the day he stops drinking. He’s promised so many times before. I even watched him pour the whole bottle down the drain. To have hope, but feel it dashed away when he picks up that one drink.
Does he know what it feels like sitting back at events, watching and waiting, not enjoying one moment as I count the drinks he’s having. To worry if this may be the time he goes too far and I have to explain why I’m driving home yet again. To answer his questions, ones he won’t even remember the next day.
Does he know how close I’ve been to leaving, giving up and letting go?
Does he know what it feels like when I cry into my pillow night after night? Shedding a trail of hot tears and clutching the blanket in my fist while I scream silently out to God in the lateness of the hour.
Does he know what it feels like holding these feelings in day after day with nobody to tell, with shame, fear and silence as my constant companions?
Does he?
She cries out from her very soul. A feeling begins to wash over her.
Dear Lord, does
my husband know just how much you’ve given me the strength to believe, hope and
trust even when it has felt hopeless and bleak? To empower me with the
knowledge that one day he’ll be free, free of this bondage, this glass god he
worships. To let you become the true Lord of his life and witness the power of
your greatness, your healing, your mercy. To know every day is a miracle, a
fresh start, a new beginning and for one more day, we can make it with you on
our side.
She feels something break within her. She feels something else. Hope.
A bible verse comes to her and with it, a promise.
Let us not
become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we
do not give up. Galatians 6:9
Rising to her feet, the whole armor of God upon her, she knows she can go on.
Monday, September 9, 2013
On Marriage and Commitment
Let us not become weary in doing good, for at
the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9
Tears streamed down my face as I clutched
a shredded Kleenex in one hand. My sobs echoed loudly in the stillness of the
room while I poured out my heart to the pastor who sat before me. I’d come to
him seeking guidance about my husband and some of his recent, hurtful behavior.
He’d disappointed me and let me down, making promises he wasn’t able to keep.
My wounds from a previous marriage were
fresh and raw. I’d been through so much pain; I vowed no other man would ever
hurt me again.
The pastor sat quietly, listening,
scribbling notes every so often on a pad before him. “As I see it,” he said,
leaning forward in his chair, “bold prayer from your heart is the answer. Treat
him as you want to be treated, with kindness and respect.”
Are
you kidding? I thought. How could I
do this when I’ve been the one so grievously wounded? He doesn’t deserve it.
I slipped behind the wheel of my car that
day deep in thought while glorious sunshine streamed through the windows. The
warmth enveloped me, opened my heart to the feeling of God’s love surrounding
me. Perhaps my hardened heart wasn’t allowing me to see how much unforgiveness
I held onto from my past. Though my husband had been wrong in how he behaved, I
realized the only person you can truly change is yourself.
A little later in the day, a cup of tea sat
before me upon the kitchen table, untouched as I began speaking to God as one
would talk with a loving parent or dear friend.
Help me to know you better. I want to completely surrender to your will.
My husband has his own burdens. Please help me to see him in a different light.
Something inside me broke then. When he
returned from work that evening, I spoke more kindly toward him. I made an
effort to ask about his day, and really listen from my heart. Little by little,
it became easier to affirm his good traits. It became easier to hold my tongue
when I wanted to lash out in anger. My husband melted as I considered his needs
first. He softened toward me when I began to love him with my whole heart.
It’s
been three years since I spoke to the pastor and surrendered myself to becoming
a godly wife. Daily prayer has become a strong bond in this marriage. Before we
leave for work, my husband and I sit in the stillness of our living room, hands
clasped together while we speak aloud to our Father for guidance. This has been
the greatest change of all: The power of spoken words which has rooted our love
and commitment to one another more deeply than I ever thought possible.
Father, I pray our commitment to you and
each other will grow stronger with every passing day. May I continue to be a
source of inspiration and encouragement to my husband and may our home be a
safe haven he can return to each night.
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